Scott was born in Halifax, Nova Scotia July 11,1969. I named him Charles Richard Frank. I was so happy to be having a baby. I was to be given 3 months to make a decision to sign the adoption papers. I was never given 3 months. In 3 months I was living in Vancouver feeling depressed, alone and thinking what happened to me and where is my baby. I want my baby.
I went to the Halifax Unwed Mothers Home as a green, young woman who knew nothing about life and living. I wanted to escape from my home for I was very nervous in that home enviroment. I did not know girls gave up their babies. I was staying in a place where I was isolated, no phone calls from my friends, the father of my baby was turned away from the door, (I found out 4 months later) and brainwashed by a social worker to believe that our son would have a wonderful home. No one told me my rights or options. I gave birth to Scott alone and did not see him until the next day. After birth I near died from bleeding. When the nurse asked me "are you nauseated?" I did not know what that meant, all I knew is something was very wrong.
I only became aware of all the injustices that were done to me after I decided to search, read and found support groups. The truth makes me want to vomit. A mother and baby should never be separated. What a sick society we live in. I also did not know that adoptees do not have rights to their birth certificates. I am so grateful for the internet. Little did they know that in 1969 that the world would be communicating via internet. Birth parents, adoptees and even adoptive parents are coming out and saying there is something very wrong. I am able to talk about how I feel and what has happened to me and to so many others. I said to my sister with tears in my eyes, "I never made the decision to give up Scott." She said "Are you just realizing that?" Now I know why I have felt alone, lost, angry, depressed and always like I am struggling with life. My baby was stolen from me, I was made to feel it was not my baby.
The searches in Halifax after waiting 2 years and then another year could not find Scott. Social worker/searcher called the afamily and found out Scott had little contact with his afamily. I know alot about Scott and have given medical information. He said he is not interested in meeting me. All this info is via adad to social worker to me. I am hoping that with time, support and healing for himself he changes his mind for I am the link that is missing in his life and he is the link that is missing in my life. Now, I am understanding myself so much better and I am so grateful for the support groups for I never want to walk this journey alone. I am here waiting with open arms. For me to be okay, I have to forgive myself for I knew not what was happening to me. I just hope Scott can forgive me.
My story is documented on http://www.myspace.com/rhetty2006. Please be patient, the page may take a couple of minutes to load.
Rhetty
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